Embrace the Change in Your Life

There comes a point in your life where you feel that things are going to change. You don’t know how and you don’t know why, but you know that change is coming. It’s like that same old routine isn’t cutting it, and you want to do more with your time. Those things that made you happy before just aren’t up to par now, those late nights in the bar don’t appeal to you. The habits you had before are a burden to you and you want new habits. Being average isn’t okay anymore and you want to be more productive. The knowledge you have now is just the beginning because you genuinely want to learn more. Going to work isn’t something you dread everyday, because you know that you can use that time to get better at what you do. Being a parent or spouse isn’t just a part of life anymore, you have a true desire to be the best you can because those people need you. Your fitness goals were on the back burner but you are seeing that if you don’t change that it may cut years off of your life. Your finances seem to be nothing but debt and you know it’s time to control that.

There are so many aspects of our lives where we can feel that change coming. You never know when that feeling will show up, but when it does you won’t have a doubt it is there. But, there will be plenty of other doubts and thoughts that can hold you back. “I’m not smart so I can’t go to school”. “I’m to old or out of shape to start working out and go back to school”. “I have no clue where to start”. “I will fail any ways”. ” I come from a poor family, so I’m probably destined to be poor”. “I can’t become good at this job because I don’t know how to get better”. “If I change now, I will end up in a worse situation”. “I have too much going on to change something right now”. The list goes on, and it sucks because society will accept these reasons not to change. This world will fuel your thoughts to remain the same because it is easy and comfortable. Most people won’t dare you to be different.

Change is part of life, and it needs to be embraced. When you embrace this new change taking place, it will take you to a side of you that you never knew existed. It will become an obsession, you won’t see it as such a negative thing. When you see even the smallest result of a change you embraced, you will begin to feed off of it. Change will be something you start to constantly seek out because you know where it can take you. when you see a few pounds off of your body you will want to keep going. When you get praised at work for doing something good, you will strive to get better. When you look at your degree plan and realize you are halfway done with a degree, you are gonna be hooked and want to focus on improving your GPA. When your spouse says that they are proud of what you accomplished, you will want to constantly prove to them that their support was worthwhile. When you get your finances under control after coming from a poor family and can buy your child something nice, you will feel a personal satisfaction that is unreal. So, when you feel that it is time to change something in your life, it’s not a mistake. Make that change happen and reap the results of dedication.

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“If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.”



Do You Deserve What You Have

From time to time we catch ourselves in a little rut where we just seem to be going through the motions. You show up to work, do what you need to, and when the day is done you pull the chocks and head home. But, what we don’t see sometimes is that we are actually being lazy. Well, that’s if you can take a little honest feedback about yourself. I’ve been guilty of this before too, so I’m not just ranting to call people lazy. You see, when you just show up and meet the requirements for the day, you’ll make your paycheck and pay the bills. We head to work and say “Gotta pay the bills”. But if you are just doing the bare minimum, that’s really all you did, “pay the bills”. Doing the minimum means you didn’t really earn your pay at all, you just collected it even though you don’t deserve it. Truthfully, you don’t deserve anything in life that you don’t care about.

You actually deserve something when you invest in it and work on it constantly. When you show up to work and your mindset is “I want to learn something new to improve my craft and help others”, you’re stepping off on the right foot. You also have to be ready to look stupid sometimes, in my opinion. Because, when you make a mistake you will probably get humiliated or even called incompetent. But, becoming good at what you do will take some moments like that to humble you a little bit, bring you down, and make you say “I need to learn more to perfect that”. Most people are scared to look like they don’t know what they are doing, so, they skate around it and try to hide under the radar. But, to truly get good at something and be the “go to guy/girl”, you have to be able to say “I didn’t know what I was doing, but how can I improve?”.

Becoming good at something doesn’t happen overnight. It doesn’t happen after you read some book on how to better yourself. Becoming good at something takes years of constant learning, asking questions, and following the footsteps of those people who have “walked the walk”. It’s important to find a role model, someone who has it all together and has proved over time that they deserve their pay every day. It’s easier to invest your time in your job if you can visualize yourself filling the shoes of that person one day. But, if you don’t have a role model, it’s probably going to be a bit harder to get to where you need to go. It’s like trying to get to your destination without a map. So, I challenge you and myself to go into work everyday and don’t just go through the motions. Don’t get to work with the mindset of being ready to go home. Instead, focus on helping improve yourself and others. Be thankful that you have a job and do everything you can to earn your pay for the day. If you don’t care about it, you don’t deserve it.

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“If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.”


The Dream That Only You Can See

We all have dreams, ambitions, and goals in life. Some of them, we are more passionate about than others. Some people’s goals may be as simple as getting out of debt or starting to eat a little more healthy. But other goals may come to you during your life and it’s not some average goal to you. These goals are something that mean everything to you deep inside. They are usually long-term and may be something that most people will never understand. These goals are called Dreams. Sure, if you tell someone about the dream you have for your life, they will say “you can do it” or “I believe in you”. But inside you know that they can’t possibly understand what it truly means to you. You’ve vividly envisioned yourself achieving that dream and there is no way a family member could ever visualize it the way that you have. That leaves it up to you to make it become a reality.

When you realize your dream for your life: you visualize it everyday, you research how to get there, and you probably even write down what it will take for you to get there. But, usually, you will start to see how long it will take, how many details are involved, how much it could cost, and how hard it will be. This can be a pretty big let down because you saw this dream in your life and all of a sudden it seems impossible now. It’s like you were all motivated to chase your dream and then life said “that’ll never happen”. At this point, it’s pretty easy to say “yeah, I could just try something else and still be happy”. But, moving on is not the only option available. Why not press forward anyways? Will you be happier looking back saying “I wish I did that” or “I am happy I didn’t quit that day.”? The great thing about life is that we are in control of our accomplishments.

Let’s be completely honest and straightforward for a second. Life is going to have ups and downs, period. You simply can’t skate around the fact that you will have bad times in your life. So, if your excuse for not chasing your dream is that it will be hard and that it scares you too much, well, it sounds like you are saying you will have bad times. Life has given you a contract and in the fine print it states: ‘You will experience low points in your lifetime’. If we are going to have low points regardless, why not let these low points be on our path to our dream?

Let’s be honest again, there are no handouts in life that are going to make you reach your dream. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but the fact is the rest of the world won’t lose any sleep if you don’t chase your dream. The only way you will get the grand prize is to put in hard work. Just putting a little bit of effort here and there isn’t going to do anything but make you feel a little better. Hard work means that you give your best effort every single day towards the next step to your dream. It’s not going to be easy and it will suck the whole time but the result will be greater than you could ever imagine. Losing 20 to 30 pounds won’t happen from a little bit of work here and there. It will take months of eating healthy, pushing your body to its’ limits in the gym, and leaving the gym drenched in sweat and feeling half dead. But, when you look in that mirror and see that you’re a new person no one can take the feeling from you. And getting a degree that you want isn’t as simple as copying and pasting your assignments from the internet. You will have to stay up half the night reading and learning your work to get a high GPA. But, when you graduate with honors and get accepted into an advanced program or residency, you will be at a high point in your life. That is only 2 examples of following a dream and the end result. No matter what your dream is, take it and visualize what hard work you will have to do and how long it will take. Then visualize the feeling when you accomplish it and what the result will be. When you do that it will give you that extra motivation to keep going.

“If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.”

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